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Let's hear some dating horror stories.

That's funny you posted this thread because last night I had a real whopper of a bad date! This was a blind date situation but we emailed for two weeks prior so I felt I got the important info--we also "seemed" to have a lot in common--but then the date happened! He talked for 3 hours stright and I hardly go two words in! Not only did he dominate the whole time but the things he said were almost shocking--he talked at length about former girlfriends and his opinions on sex! WTF!!! It was down right appauling! Here is a list of the high points that I found out or happened last night:

He's 28
He lives with his parents
His mom called twice during our date and he answered both times
He has ADD
He has stopped taking his medication
He thinks drugs and prostratitution should be legalized
He may be gay
He infomed me that he would let a guy go down on him because "a head is a head"
He also stated that he would ass f* a guy for the right price because--that's right--
an a** is an a**"
He would ask me a question and then intrupt me to talk about something else
He told me of an elobrate plan to go on a date in a wheel chair to to be an a**hole and to get a reaction out of the unknowing girl

Do I have to go on? I have had my fair share of bad dates--but nothing tops the things this guy said!

At one point he went to the bathroom and I seriously considered leaving--but I didn't think I would make it to the car in time--and when I went to the bathroom I stayed in a few extra minutes hoping that he might leave--he didn't.

I don't think I'll be dating for awhile...

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AWwW!
(((((Capture))))) That's terrible!  :o

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What's wrong with legalizing drugs, hookers, and bisexuality? Call him.

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What's wrong with legalizing drugs, hookers, and bisexuality? Call him.

Nothing!  ;)
But it might not be first date discussion material...

I was shocked abut him answering the phone when his mom called twice.

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Before I got with the current boy, my friends set me up on two blind dates. (It would've been one if I was a quick learner but apparently I'm not. Hah.)

The first was a drummer (which is technically fine) who spent two hours discussing his precise kit set up, the pros and cons of every single breakable he owned, the tuning, the cost and so forth - and then told me there was no point telling me all that "because chicks don't understand that shit". Right. So Samantha Maloney, Mercedes Lander, Lori Barbero, Torry Castellano, Janet Weiss, Karin Forsman and so on are all figments of my imagination? And he had the most monotonous voice ever.

The second was a trainee solicitor nearly ten years older than me (yuck) who actually had no personality. No lie. He had no opinion on anything. Quote of the evening for this guy was:

Cat: "So... um... what music are you into?"
Him: "I wouldn't know, I don't listen to music."

Thinking he was joking, I laughed. Oops. The night went downhill (further) from there. I have no idea what genius decided I might like him - nobody would own up to it after the event.

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Mine isn't quite as bad as baypuppy's or capture's but it was painful, nonetheless.  I had met this guy online as well (note to self: never try to meet someone online) and we seemed have good conversation, so we decided to meet for a late lunch at 2pm.

We ended up sitting at the Olive Garden for 2 1/2 hours while he shared his life story with me.  Turns out he was 25, living at home, was going to school part-time while he worked full time (no big deal), was about to become unemployed but wasn't worried because "God was going to find him a job".  He then let me check out his digital camera and see all 300 of the pictures he'd taken on a recent cross country trip - nothing like seeing 300 pictures of scenery and nothing else.  To top it off, he was the slowest eater EVER - I actually finished my meal about 30 minutes into the date and he was still eating 2 hours later.  At that point I think poking my eye out with a fork would have been more fun.   :o

The next date I had (also met him online) was with a musician who lived about 2 hours from me.  The first date when well but on the second date he told me that he was not going to drive down to see me and that his schedule was so busy that I could wait for him at his house until 1 or 2am when he got done with gigs and then we could "hang out".   :P  Needless to say, we only had 2 dates.  

I am proud to say that I have not been on any more dates for the past year and I'm really okay with it  ;D

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This thread made me laugh because I just watched an episode of Dharma and Greg called "Dharma's Totally Got a Date" and it brought back just these memories of nightmare dates.
I have two...I was the local geek (literature and facts--like Dharma's friend, not computers). And my parents were--odd. Boys could do as they liked, girls were kept at home all the time (we weren't Moslems but basically it was purdah).
Well I graduated young, and I decided that if I didn't go to the Christmas dance and prom of my final year, I might as well curl up and die. So I invited one of my much older brothers to the Christmas dance. BIG mistake. It was fun, because he was 20 yrs my senior and no one but the teachers remembered him (and they weren't telling)--but after the dance, he was still my bro! Not a positive way to start...I did go to the prom but that was just basically boring, not "bad".

The other horror story was in college; my best friend, subheading male (whom I would never have dated) had a room mate I thought was gorgeous. And I thought he was the strong, silent type. I was just sure he had unplumbed depths just waiting to be plumbed, and I was the one! So I invited him to the Lady's Choice dance and he accepted. I enjoyed ordering the boutonnieres (two--I wore a lady's tux; after all it was a turnaround dance, right?) but somehow in the final days before the dance I got a sneaking suspicion...don't know why. The day before the dance I called my date and told him that if he didn't want to go it was OK, he should just be honest. No, that was fine, we'd go.
So we did. It wasn't wonderful, being only a dorm-dance and not a campus-wide fling, but whatever. Turns out he couldn't dance, and only liked the Beach Boys, which in 1979 was NOT on the menu. After an hour or so, I invited him back to the dorm for coffee--I had no money and no car and I thought maybe he just needed a quiet place in which to be drawn out in conversation; he'd feel safe and open like a flower!
Colour me wrong. This guy was silent because he basically had nothing to say. He drank one cup of coffee, looked at his watch and said, "I'm parked in the day lot, gotta go move my car"--and vanished. At about 10 pm. I gave him half an hour's grace and then called his roomie, my friend and said basically, "Raffi--WTF??"
Uncomfortable silence, and then Raffi says, all embarassed--"Well, I guess I should have told you....he's studying to be a Catholic priest."
Your basic nightmare, for both of us I'm sure. I could have brained my friend for letting me make a fool of myself.

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First of all....Nice pic Jewel ;)

My first thought, everytime I hear a dating horror story is it takes two to tango. I've had a really bad date and I do blame it on her, nice guy that I am ha,  but at the same time I know my reaction to her might not have been perfectly honorable either and I probably made a bad situation even worse till it became a date from hell.

 

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:D ;D :D ;D :D ;D :D ;D and oh poor Capture.

I put out an online ad  to meet some men. I ask one guy to send a picture of himself. He goes,"All I have is a picture of me and my ex-girlfriend."

I go,'You still keep pictures of you and your ex?"

He goes,"Yes and if you want a picture that's what I have."

I go, "No thanks and this is going to be my last email to you."

Can you imagine sending a picture with your ex to a maybe future girlfriend????  :o :o Goodness gracious. If that man wasn't over her I don't know anymore I just don't. It just boggles the mind.

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First of all....Nice pic Jewel ;)

My first thought, everytime I hear a dating horror story is it takes two to tango. I've had a really bad date and I do blame it on her, nice guy that I am ha,  but at the same time I know my reaction to her might not have been perfectly honorable either and I probably made a bad situation even worse till it became a date from hell.

 

Don't tease, Paul.  I wanna hear the details!

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Another nice pick Kitty ;) and now I'm entering a pattern of rating the chicks here. Could be on topic though because Im not entirely void of the sterotypical male faults.

So am I going to advertise the bad thing I did? How bout no lol. But if I don't I'm hidding my evil alter ego aren't I? At least thats the way it seems I suppose. Gawd I knew I should leave this topic alone lol.

Well ok, this woman from an on line dating site meets me. We go for a walk in the park (my town has a class A park) and she says absolutly nothing. This meant I had to do the talking and what do I have to say to a hollow paper doll? So I start ranting along and I'm getting more perturbed as I go along. If it wasn't for the walking activity my head would have burst into a flood of grey goo.

Then, like a dummy I ask her to have lunch. Why!? She says yes Why!? Now without the walk to pacify my angst we sit there eatting lunch and she has nothing to say and hell never felt so warm. Here I am, trying my best to say something, she saying nothing, and there's this guy sitting at a stool at the counter part of the rsstaurant thats stareing at us making me self concious lol.

How did I survive this? It's one of the seven unsolved paradoxes in science.

And like a year later she emails me and wants to meet again. Yeah right!

I've done the one night stand thing too, had no intention of seeing her again but I was horny ect, I'm sorry and I would never do that again, it wasn't all that good anyway.

Taking a deep breath, send

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I once went out with a guy who prefaced the date by letting me know his last gf (who was 19, he was 30 and I was 25) cheated on him constantly with any man that came along yet he still would buy her clothes and shoes and give her money to do her hair and shit. Er...ok? So we went to this broken down amusement park at night and had some ice cream. All the while the lack of chemistry between us was glaring. At times I'd find him staring at me and smiling.

I tried chit chatting, asking basic stuff like "So what kind of movies are you into?" to try to stimulate the lacking conversation. He would give a short answer then quickly turn the conversation to himself. But not in a boastful way, more like "I like action movies. So I went to blah blah community college for a semester and was on academic probation and then the next semester I flunked out" Huh?? Maybe you'd not want to tell that particular story on a first date. Then he let me know he sometimes takes 2 hour naps while on the job (he's a supervisor at an energy company). Wow, that's impressive..not. At this point I'm wondering whether or not to feign a stomach ache so I can just go home.

Toward the end of the date, he's telling me stories about his sister being on welfare and his nephews having OCD and ADHD. Then as we're heading back to my house, he's blasting old reggae and dancehall tunes in his car asking me "Do you know this song, how about this one?" (I happened to know all of them) because, you know, all Caribbean people come from Jamaica (I'm from Trinidad and Tobago).  >:( Then he's asking stupid questions like how come I date white guys. WHAT? Because I date humans, idiot. (He was white too so what kind of dumb question is that?)

The date was a total pity party. He says he doesn't understand why nice women don't like him. I do! First of all he lied about his height and weight. He was about 5'8 and 220lbs not 5'11 and 190lbs. Then he tried to make me feel sorry for him the whole time. My date from hell.  :(

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hmm, all my horror stories involved people I was dating already....everyone i go out with Ive already socialized with for awhile

keep the good ones coming though

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What's wrong with legalizing drugs, hookers, and bisexuality? Call him.

I'm really not sure how to respond to this--first--I have no problem with people that have a differnt sexual orientation then I do--if you're gay, stight or bi that is fine with me but at least be honest! Don't tell me you are stright and then convince me that you are not gay by talking about having sex men!

As far as legalizing drugs and prostitutes goes--I think both worlds have tremendous negative affects on our society and legalizing them, in my own opinion, will not help the victims of either. If you want to do drugs or pay for sex that is your ambition--not mine.

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I once went out with a guy who prefaced the date by letting me know his last gf (who was 19, he was 30 and I was 25) cheated on him constantly with any man that came along yet he still would buy her clothes and shoes and give her money to do her hair and shit. Er...ok? So we went to this broken down amusement park at night and had some ice cream. All the while the lack of chemistry between us was glaring. At times I'd find him staring at me and smiling.

I tried chit chatting, asking basic stuff like "So what kind of movies are you into?" to try to stimulate the lacking conversation. He would give a short answer then quickly turn the conversation to himself. But not in a boastful way, more like "I like action movies. So I went to blah blah community college for a semester and was on academic probation and then the next semester I flunked out" Huh?? Maybe you'd not want to tell that particular story on a first date. Then he let me know he sometimes takes 2 hour naps while on the job (he's a supervisor at an energy company). Wow, that's impressive..not. At this point I'm wondering whether or not to feign a stomach ache so I can just go home.

Toward the end of the date, he's telling me stories about his sister being on welfare and his nephews having OCD and ADHD. Then as we're heading back to my house, he's blasting old reggae and dancehall tunes in his car asking me "Do you know this song, how about this one?" (I happened to know all of them) because, you know, all Caribbean people come from Jamaica (I'm from Trinidad and Tobago).  >:( Then he's asking stupid questions like how come I date white guys. WHAT? Because I date humans, idiot. (He was white too so what kind of dumb question is that?)

The date was a total pity party. He says he doesn't understand why nice women don't like him. I do! First of all he lied about his height and weight. He was about 5'8 and 220lbs not 5'11 and 190lbs. Then he tried to make me feel sorry for him the whole time. My date from hell.  :(

Damn!!  That sounds just like one of my exes!!!  Guys, here's a hint... we do NOT want to hear about how big of a whore your ex is.  We realize that it probably isn't true.

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d**n!!  That sounds just like one of my exes!!!  Guys, here's a hint... we do NOT want to hear about how big of a whore your ex is.  We realize that it probably isn't true.

Is his name Michael? Does he live in Brooklyn?  :D

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Ha!  Brian, from central Illinois.  There should NOT be TWO of those jerks running around!

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its not just guys.....girls will unload alot of stuff at you right away too

molested at 12
raped at 20
junkie dad

i know its way harder growing up as a girl in this world because of all the creeps and assholes out there...but all thats way too heavy for early relationship stuff

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...but all thats way too heavy for early relationship stuff

Ohh, agreed.  I'm a HUGE believer in hiding your issues as long as possible.

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its a fine line to walk.  when to let the person your dating realize how truly insane you might be

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