NVR - Laugh for the Ladies
This afternoon I went to a thrift store with my mom and twin Julie. I'm looking at the pants and I hear this woman to my left say "there are a lot of size 10's here are you looking for a bigger size to fit into". I didn't say anything because I don't think she's talking to me. Then she moves a little closer and says to me "I notice you have a little stomach, are you having a baby?" ??? I look at her and say "NO! I'm not pregnant." I don't know if it was my stretchy yoga pants and t-shirt that made her think that...because granted I don't have a six pack but neither do I have a big stomach that sticks out. So instead of leaving me alone she moves even closer and starts saying that she doesn't know why she should make an assumption because she just had watched a show about saying things like that and apologizes. I'm just thinking in my mind get away from me crazy lady. But no, she gets up closer where she's touching me and starts apologizing again. I just looked at her and said it was ok and that I'd just take it as a hint to do more ab work and walked away. And of course Julie is on the other side of the rack laughing her ass off. I thought she was going to fall down crying. But no, she doesn't do that instead she goes and tells my mom and she laughs at me too! :-\ Don't you just love the support of family?
Aw. That's harsh. They were probably laughing at the lady without the good sense to avoid talking about another's appearance? That's like, the first rule of interacting with people.
I have this awesome mental picture of your sister, though.
wow - what a weirdo! :o
thank you for posting! this is made me crack up.... ;D ;D ;D
I just had a miscarriage last month and I still have a little pouchie tummy... I kind assess myself in the mirror each day and try to hide it out of fear of someone saying something to me like, "Oh when are you due?" because I really don't know how I'd react on the spot like that. BUT now I will think of you and your yoga pants and your crazy touchy-feely lady instead every day! and it will make me smile.
My mom always told me that if I could not think of something nice to say, to keep my mouth SHUT. (This would have had more effect on me if she has followed her own advice.)
WHO ASSumes that because you have a slightly round, feminine abdomen that you are preggers?!?!?
Your sister and mom just like a laugh. What did George Carlin say? You can pick your friends and you can pick your nose, but you can't pick your friend's nose? Ummm no that is not the one. Oh I know, but not who said it, friends are God's way of making up for your family. I mean, if you weren't related to these people would you pick them as friends? (Or try to pick their noses eww.)
I just hope you have a similar chance to laugh at Julie. She has crossed the line and she deserves for you to laugh at her expense next time.
Some people ::) ::) ::) ::). Some people don't even know the definition of the word manners.
My personal policy is to never assume a woman is pregnant unless she's on the delivery table and I can see the baby's head. Or if she says she is.
The embarrasment potential of asking a woman when she's due or something ang then finding out that shes just got a round stomach is far too great.
I used to HATE it when women here in Spain would come up, lay their hand on my stomach and say, "And when are we going to....?" It drove me to look them in the eye and say, "Oh didn't you know? My husband's impotent." (He did it the first time. I just followed suit.) I can. not. stand. "people-copping." (Now there's a 70's phrase!!)
Later when I got heavy and people asked me "when I was due" I would say, "Oh I'm not pregnant, I'm just fat." Coals of fire...big time.
I did get tired of smartmouth women saying things like, "Why anna, you get heavier every time I see you!" They couldn't seem to understand why I found that upsetting! Like it was wrong of me to get mad!! One lady in particular who worked in a shop thought I was being just so unreasonable until the next time she said it, and I replied, "And you get older!"
I did get tired of smartmouth women saying things like, "Why anna, you get heavier every time I see you!" They couldn't seem to understand why I found that upsetting! Like it was wrong of me to get mad!! One lady in particular who worked in a shop thought I was being just so unreasonable until the next time she said it, and I replied, "And you get older!"
and tackier...jeeze the nerve of some people! I don't even want to talk about my pooch. We were looking at our wedding pics the other night and I almost cried. It's only been 5 years and I really used to look great :'(
mirrya1, I have younger twin sisters...you never really had a chance of sympathy with her. ::)
I have told folks before who repeatedly invade my personal space "would you mind taking two steps away from me? I need to fart." Works every time.
that sounds like something my brother would do. the only time i had someone (besides my mom) ask me when i was due was when i was pregnant with merrick. the waitress at olive garden said she just loved seeing pregnant women or something like that ::).
mirrya1, I have younger twin sisters...you never really had a chance of sympathy with her. ::)
I have told folks before who repeatedly invade my personal space "would you mind taking two steps away from me? I need to fart." Works every time.
I forgot to type the funniest part of this...
I hear Julie whispering "tell her you'd have d*mn bigger boobs if you were pregnant."
I didn't expect sympathy from Julie. ;) I know better. Just like she doesn't get it from me either. :D
Okay. I would laugh if that happened to my sister. Why? Because it's a crazy lady. If my sister wasn't in any harm, I'd be LMAO. I don't think so much because someone thought my sister was preggers, but the circumstance as a whole and that the woman just wouldn't let it go.
mirrya1, I have younger twin sisters...you never really had a chance of sympathy with her. ::)
I have told folks before who repeatedly invade my personal space "would you mind taking two steps away from me? I need to fart." Works every time.
I forgot to type the funniest part of this...
I hear Julie whispering "tell her you'd have d*mn bigger boobs if you were pregnant."
I didn't expect sympathy from Julie. ;) I know better. Just like she doesn't get it from me either. :D
teehee ;)
awww poor mirrya! :)
I have had to deal with this before--thankfully not in a long while. It's very disconcerting bc it's so unexpected and so insulting at the same time.
The thing that really gets to me is these complete strangers seem to feel they have the liberty to ask you an extremely personal question and then they expect an answer!
Two ideas:
1--When the offending person speaks, look at them in the eye with a blank stare and DO NOT in any way acknowledge the comment. Eventually they'll get it.
2--Very excitedly say your due date is the month that just passed for the next year. If the offender asked you this month your response could be an excited "yes! I'm due in May of 2008!" Then pat your stomach and walk off.
Don't you just love stupid people?