NVR... wedding gifts
Posted by LucidAnne on Aug 06, 2007 · Member since Jun 2006 · 1564 posts
okay, so i have a "friend" that is getting married this fall. i say "friend" b/c really, we are just one step above "acquaintences" these days. we basically just used to party together (out of default on my part, as its a small town /small social scene)...then i moved away, and now im back, and im now invited to the wedding.
soooo...what am i supposed to get someone who i like really in a superficial way. we are friends enough that it would be totally insulting to not get ANYTHING for them. (and she cares about social obligations like that)
...but i hate the idea of just giving for the sake of giving. i dunno.
any suggestions which might be good?
should i just go w/ the usual kitchen supplies?
Are the registered any where? You could just peruse the the list and find something inexpensive--that way you won't really be out a lot of money and you know they will be getting something they want--pretty win/win!
does she still like to party? you could get her wine glass markers or a couple of those bourbon glasses. i think the ones im thining of are bourbon glasses, theyre kind of short, small. *shrug*
You should definitely find out where she's registered. I would also look for a party related gift, but buy it from her register. You don't need to spend alot of money, but if you plan on going to the wedding, you should get her something. Buying from a register is also the easiest way to go...
(It's a good rule of thumb to be generous, even if the person isn't your bestest friend ever. Don't give above what you can afford, but give her something.)
You don't say how much you want to spend, but I like to give these as wedding gifts, because it's unique, useful, and a cool business to support: http://www.greenglass.com/
The tumblers are less expensive than the goblets. Also I recommend that you go with clear with a frosted design, rather than the frosted with clear design. The oil from your hands leaves ugly finger prints on the frosted glasses.
isn't it usually customary to spend at least the same amount of money on a gift for them as they are paying to have you at the wedding and feed you?
isn't it usually customary to spend at least the same amount of money on a gift for them as they are paying to have you at the wedding and feed you?
I think that is the idea. GL, Anne!
isn't it usually customary to spend at least the same amount of money on a gift for them as they are paying to have you at the wedding and feed you?
Hmm...what if they only serve meat? (Ha...like we need to look any ruder at weddings... :-[)
isn't it usually customary to spend at least the same amount of money on a gift for them as they are paying to have you at the wedding and feed you?
Hmm...what if they only serve meat? (Ha...like we need to look any ruder at weddings... :-[)
then you make sure you get your moneys worth from their open bar ;)
isn't it usually customary to spend at least the same amount of money on a gift for them as they are paying to have you at the wedding and feed you?
I've never heard of this and I worked as a wedding planner.
I think that even if some people gauge it that way it's... well... it just doesn't work out well...
Many weddings are expensive! Does that mean each guest should spend $100+ on a gift? No.
And if they are or aren't expensive, how do you know what was spent on food verses flowers? Or if the mother of the bride cooked herself? Or if they got a discount from Aunt Betty's neighbor?
What if you don't attend? Gifts are still often given.
I do believe the general rule is give what you can afford, if you are bringing a guest it would be nice to be more generous.
Though I just realized that you didn't post anything about the price of the gift and i'm going on and on... LOL
I think registry items are preferred. You can search online for most people's reg at typical places, or call ahead.
If they aren't registered (or their reg is too pricey for you) I say gift cert to the place they are registered, all the way... my sister got a discount on all the unpurchased reg items she had, so a gift card to that place would have been perfect!
I hate to say it but getting something you didn't want would suck. If she's superfical she'd feel the same x 10 :)
I totally agree with Jennifer. On any other occassion, I would say find a unique, meaningful gift, but for a wedding (especially for someone you aren't that close to), the registry is the way to go. Most ppl have cheaper items on their list, so you should be able to find something within your price range. You don't need to spend as much as she's spending on you as a guest, but you really should get her something if you're planning on going to the wedding.
You don't say how much you want to spend, but I like to give these as wedding gifts, because it's unique, useful, and a cool business to support: http://www.greenglass.com/
The tumblers are less expensive than the goblets. Also I recommend that you go with clear with a frosted design, rather than the frosted with clear design. The oil from your hands leaves ugly finger prints on the frosted glasses.
Thanks for the site veggydog. I can't wait to get my hands on some of those glasses!!!
I love getting invited to those weddings/baby showers/insert event where the invitee is obligated to get a gift for someone. There's a really good chance that they'll do a registry (You may need to call the maid of honor or the bride's mom to find out where - some people think it's an abomination for the couple to tell people where they have registered). If they don't end up doing one, there's all sorts reasonably priced generic gifts to give: picture frames, vases, platters, bar glasses and accessories (And I'm not saying this because you mentioned that you and your friend used to party a lot - glasses for drinks and things are a common gift), grilling accessories, linens, salt and pepper shakers, you get the idea.
isn't it usually customary to spend at least the same amount of money on a gift for them as they are paying to have you at the wedding and feed you?
well, then im screwed. TECHNICALLY,she'd be paying up the arse to have me at the wedding...shes breaking her/ her fiances/ and their parents bank accts at a highbrow historical mansion/spa. BUT there is nothing vegetarian...so i wont be eating! :-\
she used to make fun of my eating habits and my "being green" to the point of being antagonistic...so i dont think she'd like the recycled ANYthing...though i love those glasses!! and they will be perfect for another gift i have to get...
but i contacted her sis to see where shes registered...i looked on my own and didnt find anything.
thanks everyone.